One year ago, I walked out of a job that was literally sucking the life out of me. At the time, I was not fully aware of the massive negative impact it was having on my health. I had gained 70 pounds and I was upset, emotional, and angry ever day. Ultimately, I was in a very unhealthy situation and it took leaving to help me see that.
Since that day I have been working on getting my life back on its proper course and am dedicating myself to be better, both physically and mentally. To begin with, I worked diligently to lose the extra weight. (For those interested in that process, that is a different blog scheduled for a different day.) Now that I was physically in a better place it was time to work on getting my brain and emotions on board also. Naturally, when I lost the horrible boss, the added stress and the extra pounds some of that happened on its own. I felt better overall, but it wasn’t enough. I soon ventured down the path towards a full-blown life renewal.
So, what exactly is a life renewal? For me, it meant burying the past and hurtful memories. I spent some time sifting through the events that had transpired and pulling from those the lessons that I needed to use to forge onward. After extracting the useful information, the lessons, I began to stamp out the negative, depressing, and even vengeful thoughts to keep them from making frequent repeat appearances in my life.
I used three tools to help me on this new journey. First and foremost, I had a strong support system. I have many amazing people in my life to cry with, to laugh with, and to dream with. People are important because they offer us a sense of security and comfort. I have had friends come and go, some are distant some are close, but I know and understand that they are there for me whenever I need them.
The next step is crucial, you have to remove all the negativity and replace it with positive change. A friend encouraged me to watch the Netflix documentary called, The Secret. This paints a picture of how successful people rise to the top using the power of their thoughts. Constant negativity will bring you down, and those around you also. This show expressed the importance of focusing on the good in order to avoid the bad.
However, the main objective that I took from this film was the lesson from Lee Brower. His message resonated with my soul on a practical level. Mr. Brower told the story of his Gratitude Rock. This was just a simple stone that he kept in his pocket to remind him to think of what he is grateful for twice a day. Now, considering I don’t always have pockets I chose not to use a rock as my reminder. Instead, I put my watch on every morning and take it off every night. I use this action twice a day as an opportunity to be grateful for the joys in my life. I will confess, some days are more difficult than others to be grateful for but those are the best days to remember the blessings amongst the sorrows and I cherish them the most. It is amazing, the power that gratitude has in your life when you let it in. Thank you, Mr. Brower, for this tremendous yet simple trick. I have noticed a significant difference in my spirit since inviting this empowering change into my life.
Finally, accept what is not changeable in your life and learn to mold what is changeable to your own benefit. During my new journey in life, I have started working as a freelance writer and editor, as such I began editing a book for a client that offers an intriguing perspective on the different versions of normal in our life. The author introduces a concept of labeling the things we cannot change as “concrete normals” and the rest of them she calls “malleable normals”. The objective is to help you learn to control the way you look at what is normal and it teaches you how to avoid the pitfalls that it presents in our life. I am looking forward to that book, “Grow Up Already” by Renee Lowry being published. When it is, I will post a link here. Ultimately, I know you have all read, heard, and cherished the serenity prayer, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” God made this sound so simple, yet it is one of the most difficult things we face in life. This book really helped put this concept into manageable terms and helps us learn to regain control over the events in our life.
I wish that I could tell you that implementing these three changes magically made my life perfect and caused money to grow in my vegetable garden in the back yard. Unfortunately, that hasn’t happened and never will. The truth of the matter is that life renewal isn’t a magical journey that erases all of your problems. It is merely a mission to focus on the good in your life, it is a goal to invite positive change, and it is an opportunity to surround yourself with people who will help you become the best version of yourself.
What I have gained from this journey is a new outlook. I have been introduced to new potentials that I never before imagined possible. When you focus on the good in life, that is the vision you will have as you move into the future. I am looking forward to discovering the new adventures in my life and learning from the struggles and inspiration that comes with it.