At times, being human is a challenge. Especially, being a human of the female variety in particular. Women are naturally driven by our emotions and logic tends to play a secondary role. As we know, anytime our emotions are involved it is just an open invitation to let in the crazy drama.
Personally, I try to maintain a healthy level of self-awareness and balance it with an equal effort to be conscious of those around me. Sadly, this ideology does not always exempt me from said drama. In fact, it often invites me to the throes of a dramatic situation. The bottom line is this… drama, by its very nature, is unavoidable. So, quit trying to avoid it and learn how to use it to your advantage instead. After all, we are all in this crazy, mixed-up world together so we might as well make the best of it while we are here.
Becoming a conscious human can help you live for tomorrow, it can help you build a brighter future, and it can help you find yourself in a sea of others swimming towards their own best life. So, what does it mean to become a conscious human? The definition of conscious according to my good pal Merriam Webster, is to perceive, apprehend, or notice with a degree of controlled thought or observation. I believe that the key word here is “controlled”, when we understand that we are in control of how we think, feel, and act then, and only then, can we begin to move our lives in the direction we choose.
There are three things that we need to take into consideration when we work towards becoming a conscious human.
- Don’t be a juggler!
No, I am not referring to those old tennis balls you have stored in the garage. I am talking about the many hats we wear on a daily basis; being a mom, a wife, an aunt, a sister, daughter, co-worker, and friend. Many times, we get lost in the roles we have that other people rely on us for and we lose track of who we are and what we want out of life. The most important role you have in this world is to be true to yourself. If you build a strong inner core and foundation than the other roles we step into as wife, mother, etc… will be that much easier. Spend some time sorting out what you want for your life, invest time in yourself, and make sure you commit a certain part of each day to take care of you! The rest will fall into place as it should, no juggling necessary.
Don’t just take Aretha Franklin’s word for it, find out what respect means to you. Yes, you need to respect yourself first. However, you must first and foremost realize that respect is a two-way street. If someone has disrespected you, maybe you did not earn it. Adversely, if you do not have respect for someone, odds are, they didn’t earn it. Either way, your behavior, and actions will reflect that disrespect as will theirs. Thus, you have the beginnings of an unhealthy relationship.
At the end of the day, you have to make the decision to work on the relationship or walk away. Some situations are beyond repair and are better left in the past. Once you have sifted through your current relationships and decided which ones are unhealthy, work to move forward and allow yourself to focus on your current goals. Maintaining healthy relationships will become second nature as you gain respect for yourself and learn to avoid situations that are toxic. Keep people in your life that help support you, build you up, and are a positive influence.
- Embrace your Future
Before you can move forward you need to be able to escape the shadows of yesterday and reach beyond them to embrace your future. In other words, do not dwell on the problems or struggles you had in the past. Use those dark times or difficulties as lessons to help you build a better tomorrow. Once you can learn to view those challenging situations as opportunities to help you grow, they will become easier to accept, cope with, and move on from. Set goals for yourself and strive to reach them. Your best life is within reach if you are prepared to embrace it!
You are confined only by the walls you build yourself. ~Andrew Murphy